WELCOME
This program is for the woman who has moved on from her marriage having ended.
She's finding herself.
She's redefining who she wants to be and she wants to create full success in her life, love & career.
IS THIS YOU?
THIS PROGRAM IS FOR YOU IF POST YOUR MARRIAGE ENDING YOU WANT TO...
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Be fully in the drivers seat of your own life and destiny. Financially secure and independent as a woman - however this looks for you. Leading with confidence and empowerment not fear. Sometimes we're navigating career changes or business growth alongside our path. We're learning to be our own successful providers, to navigate our financial mindset. Whatever your scenario, we desire security and growth for you.
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Redefine your self indentity and who you are as a woman. You lost your identity, ignored your intuition and lost your sense of self in your marriage. You have always mostly identified as a role you've played for others in your life - Mum, wife, daughter or your career title. You're not really sure who you are as a woman or confident to know you will be loved and appreciated simply for being you. Not for what you do. This is where we begin to truly embody the vibe of I am loved for who I am, not for what I do.
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You are walking the twin flame path. Maybe you have someone in your life who you believe is your twin flame - you may or may not be in separation but you know that your growth and healing both emotionally and spiritually is the gateway for this union to come into your life as a union. Not time. Not their growth. Yours.
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You want love in your life, but not just any kind of love. The kind that is worth your time and attention. That allows you to be in your feminine, a love that supports you, nurtures you and equally gives back to you. This is a conscious version of relationship that requires two individuals to be conscious, interdependent not codependent, awake to their shadow, healing through their inner mess. These relationships do exist and they almost always can only ever occur later in our life because we have experienced what love is not and who we are not to such a degree that it woke us up and forced us to heal. This love journey always starts with our deepening self journey first.​​
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You want to come of age. To step into your feminine, into your leadership personally and professionally. For your journey and growth to be a gift to yourself and others. To be empowered. To inspire your children with how you live your life and who you are. To inspire others around you.
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You are no longer desiring to be shaped by your ex or your past. This is a new chapter of you.
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If this doesn't quite resonate with where you are right now my other online program here will resonate with you and I invite you to explore it.
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Rediscovering You after a marriage has ended, a more wise and evolved self for it having ended, is going to look like this for you...
First Healing From Your Past:
One of the core components to discovering who you are is to heal from your past first. When you haven't fully healed from your wounds, it blinds you. Unresolved wounds choose partners and friendships for us in an attempt to heal the wound. They steer the ship of your life and decision making. They shape your self- beliefs and perceptions of your life and self.
Hurt, grief, unresolved childhood trauma and a lack of self-belief, self-worth impacts on our judgement and perspective.
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This skewed vision leads us to end up with the wrong person, or to remain in situations longer than we should. And ultimately our perceived abilities and goals for ourself will be limited too...and you won't even know it because it's all your perspective knows!
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Ultimately when you haven't evolved out of past hurt and pain, it blocks you from being vulnerable and opening up to life and love again. And vulnerability is key and necessary for you to not just receive and fully open up to love, but to fully let yourself be seen and loved for who you are as a woman personally and professionally.
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And lastly, not healing from our past stops us from exuding positive energy because we are weighed down. Positive energy is necessary to create and attract the life experience and version of self we seek.
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It is the foundational work that we can't skip as much as we might wish too! Please view my other online program if the foundational healing work is where you find yourself here.
After Our Healing, Then We Can Find & Step Into Our Purpose:
Who are we when we've left what was no longer meant for us?When we stop people pleasing and being who others need us to be or remain for them?
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This is you beginning to explore and step into your dharma - life as your highest version of self. An evolved, on purpose, energised adult. We have learnt through contrast and experience in our life what we don't want, who we are not, what isn't aligned with our values and now we step into the individuation process of discovering who we really are.
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The majority of first marriages in society today were chosen from a place of our childhood wounding and conditioning, from societal/familial pressure and modelling of what success looks like more than they were a reflection of unconditional love.
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That's why they fail. As soon as we begin to evolve out of our wounds and heal them. As soon as we begin to grow into a more mature, wise version of us the relationship becomes imbalanced and challenged. And often ends.
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There are many adults right now who up til this point in their life have not been walking their purpose because they were trying to do so with an unaligned partner weighing them down and trying to make it work. An unaligned career and make it work. Living in the wrong place. And so on and so on.
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The wrong friends, your job, your partner, other negative associations in your life can represent an anchor in our life- holding us back, limiting our potential, they are something we are always trying to rise above.
In order to know what fits now into the future means you must know who you really are and where you are destined to go now that no one is no longer defining who you need to remain.
This is the woman's self-journey.
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To be in the drivers seat of her life in her self, career, finances, and love life.
No longer in the passenger seat.
Fully owning her gifts.​
Her presence.
Her feminine leadership.
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Magic success.
A magnetic foundation on which to build this next season of life from.
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Sometimes for the very first time in her life.
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The focus of this program.
Who Am I?
It is sometimes a fine line to share 'who am I?!'
There is the woman who I am in my private life in my intimate and familial relationships. And there is the me that you know from reading my books, from watching me share my coaching and personal journey on social media and in my newsletters.
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Certainly you know and I have gifted you a deep insight into my psyche. The parts that I know shared will benefit your journey.
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But my personal growth journey to rediscovering who I am as a woman post my marriage ending, has run much deeper.
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Today I am a much more driven, feminine and in someways kookier in my life than many expect from me! I am routinely underestimated by women in their masculine energy and by 'professional' career men - I find this deeply amusing to witness.
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From a stay at home Mum, in a financially and emotionally codependent marriage to a 'successful' high performance coach for women who are wanting to succeed in life, love and their careers after a marriage ends today.
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I've walked the entire path myself spiritually, practically and in my mindset. Which is why I'm able to coach women through the entire journey of...
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How am I going to do this?
Do this financially? Find love? Who am I?
How will I create a new secure, financially safe life as a single woman.
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I've been there in all the ways, often through worse circumstances than I can ever share on social media or in my books publicly.
I am a woman who lost herself and compromised her self-worth for love.
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I moved to the other side of the country for my once husband before moving back 19 years later because she couldn't ignore her inner voice any longer that this wasn't her place and had never been - it was his.
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I followed the 'success' pathway that life had sold to me as being the 'smart' thing to do as a young adult.
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I got good grades. I went to one of the best Universities in Australia. I was gifted a full scholarship. I married the attractive guy. We bought a home. Had two beautiful children. Travelled. Had our own business. We created that successful beautiful life that I now coin a 'successful marriage without fulfilment.' Everything on paper looked amazing to the outside world. But below the surface it was not.
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I left my marriage in 2016 and so began the process of undoing it all inside and out and redefining what success in life actually looked like to me.
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In my former life I worked in dentistry.
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Today I am a leading thought leader on divorce and the journey after leaving a marriage for women here in Australia. I am a creative (which I always was before deciding to step into health science and dentistry because of my high grades) and have published two books on divorce and the journey to finding love after divorce for women.
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There is very little in my life, inside or out, that exists from my former life today aside from the significant people in my world, my two daughters, my family and my closest of friends.
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The journey has been free'ing, liberating, amazing while sometimes lonely, overwhelming, challenging and heartbreaking.
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But I wouldn't change a thing.
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This is my coming of age program.
Born from the wisdom of my journey and everything I've moved through personally, so I can bring you to a truly empowered, successful and thriving in your life point faster than I was able to.
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Say yes to this journey. You will never regret it.
Hear What Past Clients Have To Say
Ash
When I first read Carla’s book, Seconds Please, I felt like I was reading about myself on almost every page. My feelings and thoughts, and some experiences, were all being articulated back to me in ways I didn’t know were possible. It felt like I was truly understanding myself for the time, and allowing myself to have so much compassion and grace for the woman who was undergoing that journey. That woman being me.
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Twelve months and many Zoom calls with Carla later, I am in awe of the growth that has happened since I started working with Carla.
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I’ve just finished my last call with Carla with tears streaming down my face. Tears of relief, of joy and of hope. Carla has helped me open myself up to so much possibility in life, and has shown me that I was always capable of being my own biggest advocate.
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I am moving into a new year with such a different mindset and with so much optimism for what lies ahead.
Thank you, Carla.
Alicia
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I can't say enough good things about Carla. I found Carla through instagram, she popped up in my feed a few months before my marriage ended. After my marriage broke down, I reached out.
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From those very first conversations I completely trusted and felt safe in Carla's guidance, in the facts of the how's and why's my marriage hadn't and wouldn't work any longer. Over the following months during the untiling of my former life, I genuinely felt supported having Carla next to me.
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Having friends and family can be comforting however really the guidance of someone who had seen this before and has the answer, was so incredibly valuable and grounding. You don't need people to tell you what you want to hear- you need people to tell you how it actually is!
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With Carla, I have worked on myself more over the past 12 months than in my entire life. I've built an entirely new positive vision for my life and unlearnt so many things I believed to be true about love, life and relationships.
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Thank you so much Carla for helping me achieve all that I have and for being the exact thing I needed.
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*Early 2024 update - Alicia has just purchased her own dream home 12-16 months post her marriage ending.
Sara
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I have worked with Carla for the last 12 months and it has been life changing for me. I participated in Newly Divorced, Rediscovering You and one on one mentoring support with Carla.
I have learned a lot about myself and Carla has shared with me many new strategies and tools for dealing with the challenges that life can throw at us.
Because Carla has actually lived the experience of separation/divorce and the process of finding love after, she is able to give real life advice about how to approach certain situations. Her level of understanding of the feelings and the stages that go with a big life change like this is great because she has been where we have!
Carla provides a safe space with no judgement and practical, clear advice on how to improve areas of your life that you are struggling with.
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Having said that, Carla’s bullshit detector is very finely tuned and she will hold you accountable for the ways you may be self sabotaging or selling yourself short.
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The support and advice I have received from Carla has been amazing and I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend her coaching.
Rediscovering You is my coming of age program that encapsulates my personal journey of fully coming home to me and redefining my self-identity after my marriage ended in 2015.
It is the step by step framework I have been leading my clients through once they've healed from their marriage and now want to soar in their next season of life.
A completely new woman.
With an entirely different energy.
And a whole new purpose.
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HERE'S WHAT WE'LL DO THROUGH THESE 3 MONTHS TOGETHER
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Understand your own future personal, unique journey of rediscovery and course correction that you need to take. Understand how to walk it.
Dive deeper to peel back those layers of self-limitation, people pleasing and the need to be liked/loved/fit in.
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Tap into your souls journey and dharma. Discover who you really are as a woman and how to tap into that shining, magnetic, feminine version of you that will grow you personally and professionally.
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Create your own unique version of post first marriage success WITH fulfilment, not success WITHOUT fulfilment. Step into this new version of you in an intimate relationship with another.
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Mastering the dance of living in the 3D world while mastering our energy in the 5D through our practices, knowledge and mindset. This is us truly stepping into our feminine qualities, intuition, spirituality and ability to manifest now.
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Understanding the process of self-expansion and growth. Identify your favourite forms of self-sabotage and how to overcome them so we can continue to rise, shine and be magnetic as a woman in a masculine dominated energy world.
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How to stay in alignment while life happens around us. To not lose our way, fall into self-doubt, compromise or lose ourselves again for love, lifestyle, money or fear again.
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Fully embody and master the woman you desire to become now and into the future. You owning your path. Trusting the process. Glowing. Magnetic. In flow. So beautiful. The world needs more of these embodied women now more than ever.
'Rediscovering You' is my follow on program to my foundational program 'Rising Beyond Separation & Divorce.' This is where we really turn up the notch on ourselves and our lives because we've healed and let go of the past.
This is where we decide to really rise and shine professionally and personally.
To move on and make real magic in our lives with a beautiful masculine man by our sides (whether this is a now or a one day in the future desire for you).
We are grateful for our past - the good and the not so good, but more than anything, we are open and excited for everything we want to bring into our future life and experience.
I Invite You To Join Me In This 3 Month Program & To Step Into The Energy Of Being A Woman With A Life, A Career, A Love That Fully Lights Them Up
In this powerful, highly supportive online coaching program, we become the woman who knows who they are, where they're going and what they want. The woman who is connected, aligned, fully on her path. Not superficially. Deeply.
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This is you achieving accelerated fast results because now we truly get out of our own way.
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When we are aligned and connected with who we really are then all areas of our life and self go through an up-level.
WHAT'S INCLUDED?
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Personalised support from Carla in our private members group.​
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Bi-monthly group coaching calls with Carla. (Evening AEST times).
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The opportunity to include 1:1 sessions with Carla as a VIP client if you wish.
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Private group and community of like-minded women, moving through the same life season as you.
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The Rediscovering You Road Map: Let Carla lead you through over 25+ hours of pre-recorded video content for you to be able to listen to in your own time and privacy. Carla has paced and structured this program purposefully to unfold in such a way that supports your growth and healing in a way that will accelerate and fast-track your success. The step by step pathway is on purpose after coaching 1000's of women through this process.
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Lifetime access to the program and the community.
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Private online members portal for members only, where all of the programs content will be released to you over the three month period. ​
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Plus so much more content and teachings that you're not even aware that you need to tap into your highest potential as a woman in this next chapter of her life.
How Will You Feel By The End Of Our 3 Months Together?
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Alive. Empowered. Confident. In your power. Comfortable with you are, what you have to offer others and with life coming together for you.
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On purpose. Wise. Fully embracing of your journey in the past because it's a gift to your present and future. You have come of age.
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You are living as your best version of self and attracting in life, love and career opportunities that are an energetic match to this version of you.
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You're experiencing full success. Life is in flow and the big things you desire are actually coming together and manifesting for you now. You feel in touch with yourself more than ever and your light as a woman.
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You are shining and people can see the difference in you. Your presence inspires others. And you're comfortable if your energy triggers others now that you've changed. Their discomfort or words doesn't cause you to dim or hold yourself back.
It is one of the biggest blessings in my life.
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For my work through my two books and my online programs to be the powerful catalyst to create such powerful shifts and successful life results for the beautiful women who have been through them.
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For my clients to be in beautiful love unions. Whether you wish to call them Twin Flame unions or not, this is my desire for you.
And it brings an even deeper level of fulfilment to me because of the personal life experience that I have moved through and come through myself.
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I know this journey because I've walked it. I know it's pitfalls. I know how to make it smoother and easier for you to navigate.
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ABOUT YOUR HOST
Carla Da Costa is a published author on divorce and love and a certified divorce coach. She has been working in the divorce space and works with men and women who are separating, divorced or who have been out of their marriages since 2016.
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Carla has a deep understanding of the masculine and feminine healing and awakening journey that occurs during a marriage ending and moving on from it's ending process.
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Carla's work has a deep focus on supporting men into their conscious, masculine energy and women into their empowered, feminine energy - sometimes for the first real time in their lives. Her desire is to heal mistrust and misunderstanding between men and women and to see both sexes in their empowerment and strengths and in loving unions with another.
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She has a deep passion in the psychological, metaphysical and spiritual worlds while also having a deep grasp on the practicalities and legalities of a marriage ending and the navigation of exes, children and associated situations of money and businesses.
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Carla's coaching is both a combination of executive style coaching, mentorship and intuitively lead guidance. She has a profound ability to be able to read you and your situation quickly and powerfully to bring you clarity, healing and resolvement.
On a personal level, Carla went through her own marriage ending and divorce in 2015 and 2016 and has coached 1000's of individuals through their own since. She could not do this work today if she had not moved through this experience herself.
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Her life motto is: 'I blow by anything that slows me down' ~ Guru Jagat.